The Lifelong Child of Divorce: Why We Never Outgrow the Need for Peace

Being a child of divorce is a role you never quite resign from. I know this because I still wear that hat, even as I navigate the complexities of my own blended family today. You don't grow out of wanting your parents to be civil; you just get better at hiding how much it affects you. As separated parents, we often talk about putting the children first when they are small, worrying about the politics of handovers and school plays. But the need for parental unity doesn’t expire with an 18th birthday card.

A few weeks ago, I was sitting at my laptop, glancing out the kitchen window, when a piece of news broke that made me double-check the horizon for airborne pigs. I can confirm there were none in flight. Nor did I have reason to believe that the thermostat had been turned down in the depths of the after-life reserved for Epstein and his cronies. And yet, there it was, a joint statement from Katie Price and Peter Andre. Now, I should be clear, I am not a fan of Katie Price. I don’t spend my time keeping up with her reality TV sagas or the latest tabloid drama. But as someone navigating a blended family and, more importantly, as a child of divorce myself, this particular headline stopped me in my tracks. It was a surprise, to say the least, to anyone even vaguely aware of their twenty-year history of public friction.

The peace treaty that proved even the most public of conflicts can find a quiet end.

The Long Shadow of a Public Divorce

Seeing Peter and Katie reach this truce when their children are 18 and 20 might seem like a too little, too late scenario to some. But as someone who has stood in those shoes, I can tell you that the relief of a ceasefire is sweet at any age. It’s the closing of a door on a chapter of conflict that their shared children no longer have to carry into their own future relationships.

Junior and Princess Andre are now 20 and 18 respectively. For the entirety of their lives, they have been the involuntary protagonists in a very public, very messy drama. They have navigated the wreckage of their parents’ marriage, a revolving door of subsequent relationships, on their mother’s side anyway, and the arrival of multiple new siblings in two very different households. On one side, they’ve had the benefit of a steady, supportive environment, a blueprint, if you like, for what a healthy and grounded relationship

can look like. On the other, they have navigated a masterclass in unpredictability, exemplified most recently by yet another whirlwind marriage after a matter of days. It is a staggering contrast for any child to bridge.

It highlights that in reality, co-parenting isn't always a two-way street. It is an added, often exhausting difficulty when one party is navigating significant personal complexities. Co-parenting becomes an uphill battle when one side of the equation is perpetually in flux. Over the years, Andre likely found his options for peace limited; you can’t easily establish a calm routine with someone who is continually weathering their own personal storms and very public battles for stability.

The Power of the Late United Front

By presenting a united front now, Katie and Peter are finally allowing their adult children to stop bracing for impact. They are giving them permission to love both parents without the nagging hum of conflict in the background. It would be easy to scoff and say the damage is done. But there is something profoundly healing about seeing your parents in the same room, even if that room is a digital press release.

A Message to the Rest of Us

For those of us in the trenches of step-parenting, watching the chaos of others from the sidelines, it’s a powerful reminder. Our job isn’t just about getting through the weekend or surviving the next handover. The finish line isn't graduation or adulthood. It’s about the long game. It’s about ensuring that one day, decades from now, our children don't have to wait for a miracle to see a united front. The goal is peace, whenever it arrives. If the pigs can fly in the Price-Andre camp, perhaps there’s hope for every high-conflict dynamic out there.

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